Why hot chicks win

On to the next one… Of course I’m entering into another dangerous arena. Yup, it’s time to explore why the hot chick always wins. I guess I’ll start off by clarifying what “winning” is. Winning in this case is where you get your choice of men, dates, experiences, vacations, clothes, cars, food and many more superficial items that the average tend to wish they had. What is it about this mystical “hot chick” that makes all the guys go crazy. Is it the hips or the lips? Is it the charm or style? Is it the way she smiles or how she makes you want to eat out of the palm of her hand? Before I go into this article, I am in no way saying that good looking women are not smart. I am simply making a point about one type of woman that most guys target.

Now, ready for this? The answer to the question above is “all of the above”. Some hot chicks may seem flighty at times, but are actually very smart people. The thing is… They are smart about what matters to them. Yes they may not know who the current president is or why you must use the Pythagorean Theorem for calculating a triangle, but ask anyone, they can easily pull your man.

Now why is this? Lots of women come to me and say I’m smart, I’m funny and I have my own money. How can this floosy come and he be so consumed by something so limiting?

Ok… Here’s the brutal truth. Like I always say, we guys are driven by what we see. It may be very superficial, but true. The first thing we notice when we see a woman is how she looks, followed by how she carries herself, then we delve a little lower by checking out her shape. Oh and as a tidbit, when we have that look in our eye, we’re not thinking “I bet she finished top of her class.” Nope, we’re thinking “I wonder how she can work it.”

As I can’t say enough, we’re simple. Men simply don’t think that far down the road. We tend to start thinking that way after the infatuation starts to wear off. Interestingly enough, we start imprinting with you right about the time that you all feel we’re losing interest and don’t do the things we use to. LOL!

Now to go deeper. I’m going to speak about different groups of men to break it down. To start we’re going to pick the successful man. He doesn’t care about your education, because he’s just looking to have fun. Money is not an object because he has it himself. Plus, for the most part, successful men want it to be about them. They prefer to be catered to and a power struggle is not in the plans. The best situation for them is going out with a beautiful fun loving woman that thinks the world about them and makes them feel good just being around.

The hot chick knows her role and is happy playing it. She is not concerned about pushing her agenda because she doesn’t have one. Yup, she knows her only purpose is to make him look good by being eye candy and stroking his ego. The only plan she has is to look good going wherever he’s taking her and enjoy the adventurous ride of spontaneous gifts and lavish trips.

For the average Joe it’s even simpler. Most of his life, he has been made to look small. Whether it’s in his job, friend circle or family, he just doesn’t seem to come out on top. This guy doesn’t care about how good of a mother you can be or how good you are at saving a buck. Nope, this guy wants retribution. He feels that the hot chick is his way to show that he’s not so small. By having a hot chick, it actually makes him feel more confident. With her by his side, his self-esteem skyrockets. Even though most of the people are thinking “why is she with him,” he doesn’t care because the bottom line is that she is.

In this situation, once again, the hot chick wins because she gets to go shopping and be showered with lavish gifts and all the glorious attention she requires. Why should she trouble her pretty little mind about if she’s number one? That information is simply insignificant when you know your role. Just in case you forgot, the hot chick role is to make “him look and feel good”.

Yup! Every guy wants that girl that turns heads and makes the other guys say damn!

Now for the reality. Not everyone can be the hot chick. There are far too many important things in each other’s lives that can prevent this. Some may be that career, kids or any other life altering situation. I know everyone doesn’t care about fashion, makeup or even fitness. Some of you all think that hair and nails are simply a bother and you’re doing good enough just to make it through the work day. Others say it’s just flat out not that important.

If any of these are you, that’s why the hot chick is kicking your butts. You have to be the apple of our eye and can no more let yourself slip in appearance no more than we can. You can compete with the hot chick, but it will take some effort. Don’t dress, eat, walk and or talk like you don’t give a dang. You can beat the hot chick. Most hot chicks have one dimension. As the progressive, loving, nurturing, smart and creative woman, you have the potential to step your game up.

Genuinely taking an interest in what your man does is the first step. Playing a supportive role by saying a kind word will do wonders. A little “honey I believe in you, you can do it” goes a long way. When he has a loving foundation at home, it makes it harder for the hot chick to pass a few compliments and get him going.

Definitely avoid the routine life. Taking each other for granted is the first step in the “complacent relationship transformation”.

Don’t be a victim of the hot chick! It’s not too late. Guys prefer to have it all and you can be it all. Instead of thinking “why don’t men try to do the same to keep us,” take the time and really listen to what I’m saying. Rest assured there will be another article getting on us. In the meantime, don’t just join a gym and never go. Don’t just say you’re starting a diet and eat what you want. Let’s put action to these words to build the newer better you. Of course it won’t be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. I find that getting a buddy is extremely helpful. A system of accountability will do wonders.

Once you start seeing improvements, you’ll notice “your” self-esteem and confidence growing as well. “In”vestments never return void. As you increase your own stock, you’ll start to feel better and see more opportunities opening all around you. Yup, in beating the hot chick, you’ll actually reap the benefits all over.

I look forward to the new and improved you and I know you do too!

www.kevinkeyspeaks.com

Shop for a Cause

By: Javacia Harris Bowser

Tiffeny Curier loves Birmingham. That’s why she started her online publication BPositive Magazine and that’s why she felt she had to do something to help families affected by the devastating storms of April 27.

“I was inspired to coordinate this event because I had four family members to lose their homes as a result of the April 27 tornadoes,” Curier said. “Pratt City (one of the hardest hit areas) is the community I grew up in and so many of my neighbors and friends lost their homes as well. My home church was also in the path of destruction so I knew I had to do something.”

On Sunday, June 5 from 6 to 8:30 p.m., BPositive  Magazine will host a private jewelry sale at Charming Charlie in the Summit and all money raised from ticket sales will go to families affected by the tornadoes.  Everyone attending the jewelry sale will receive 20 percent off their entire purchase.  There will be prizes awarded throughout the night and light refreshments will be served. Tickets to the private jewelry sale are $25 and can be purchased online at bpositivejewelrysale.eventbrite.com.

Javacia Harris Bowser is founding editor of GeorgiaMae.com.

Birmingham you deserve more evolution, more ambience, more detail!!

Birmingham, AL/Monday, May 23, 2011 – R. JAY WHITE MANAGEMENT ANNOUNCES GRAND OPENING OF NEW VENUE. The President of SociallyLinked, L.L.C., a Birmingham-based brand management, social strategy, and business development firm, is proud to debut another venture that will do more than reshape the nightlife and social scene surrounding Birmingham with the ―Grand Opening‖ of this facility.

Nestled within the historic twenty-second hundred block of First Avenue North, entitled EasyStreet of Matthews Bar & Grill, this Downtown—Birmingham location has taken on a complete overhaul. Boasting 4,289 square feet of pure decadence, you’ll step inside an environment filled with noteworthy ambient lighting, infectious beats, bold melodies, and sleek fabrics. Your experience will feature impeccable ultra-premium beverages paired with seasonal ultra-premium cuisine. The time spent here allows your mind to escape to a level of pure euphoria; henceforth, inspiring the trending topic #LifeonEasyStreet (as seen on Twitter).

The ―Grand Opening‖ will feature a V.I.P. Reception, Ribbon-Cutting, and Live Broadcast with the city’s Key Influencers, Socialites, & Professionals. EasyStreet will be filled with an array of live musical entertainment provided by the best local and regional Artist, Bands, and DJ’s. Go to the website www.EasyStreetBham.com to secure admission via pre-sale tickets and/or reservations.

EasyStreet is located at 2213 First Avenue North, Birmingham, AL 35203, and will officially open its ―modern meets lavish‖ doors on Friday, June 17th 2011 at 8:00PM. The V.I.P. Reception will take place from 6PM to 8PM (Invite Only). To secure proper credentials or receive more information regarding interviews, photos, media, or VIP requests, please contact:

Sly King, Director of Public Relations | 205-508-0035 | sking@sociallylinkedllc.com

RODNEY PERRY & FRIENDS LIVE @ MERIENDA LOUNGE

YOU’VE SEEN HIM ON THE MONIQUE SHOW & MADEA’S BIG HAPPY FAMILY.

D’ZIRE INC. PRESENTS

A NIGHT OF LAUGHTER W/ RODNEY PERRY & FRIENDS

TONE X, VANESSA FRACTION & RION EVANS

WEDNESDAY JUNE 1. 2011 …… ADMISSION ONLY $10

LIVE PERFORMANCE BY: Y.V.P.G W/ DJ SWEATT IN THE MIX

KITCHEN WILL BE WIDE OPEN W/ DRINK SPECIALS ALL NIGHT

420 RICHARD ARRINGTON BLVD., CORNER OF 5TH AVE. S.

FOR MORE INFORMATION CALL 205-266-2594

Theatre With a Multicultural Point of View

On June 20^th, Aldridge Repertory Theatre, Inc. joins 16 minority-owned theatres across the country in a one night only staged reading of the play Trouble in Mind by Alice Childress at the Virginia Samford Theatre at 8:00 p.m.   Aldridge joins the network of theatres in a venture titled, Project1Voice: 1 voice, 1 play, 1 day,  as part of a fund raising project for minority theatre companies across the nation.

Trouble In Mind,  a powerfully incendiary and satiric drama is  based on the conflict of not compromising one’s artistic integrity .  The play within a play follows the journey of a mixed-race cast in 1957 as they embark upon rehearsals for a racially-charged play.   With much humor, each character is revealed, along with their cavalier approach to the scripts they hold.

Project1Voice, the brainchild of Birmingham native Erich McMillan McCall, hopes the funds raised will help struggling minority theatres weather the current economic storm.   However, in light of the recent tornadoes that swept through Birmingham in April, Aldridge plans to use a portion of the money raised to extend its theatre arts outreach programs to the affected communities.   Currently, Aldridge, in collaboration with the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute,  is sponsoring the Institute’s summer youth program which runs June 1-30.

Aldridge Repertory Theatre Inc. was founded in 1984 and has, over the years,  produced such plays as: The Amen Corner; Black Nativity; For Colored Girls Who have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf; No Child,  and Lady Day at Emerson’s Bar & Grill.

For more information call 205.538.1828.

Every woman needs a “Little Black Dress”

PROJECT1VOICE making history on JUNE 20th, 8pm w/Multiple readings of TROUBLE IN MIND featuring Tonea Stewart in Birmingham

At 8 PM on June 20th nineteen (19) African-American theater organizations from New York to LA will make history as they present “1VOICE, 1PLAY, 1DAY”, a national one day benefit staged reading of the Alice Childress classic TROUBLE IN MIND.  This inaugural event, by PROJECT1VOICE, seeks to make the country aware of the plight of African-American theater companies and to preserve their legacies and those of African-American playwrights.  This campaign is shedding light on the need for assistance, both financial and in kind, for all arts organizations in this harsh economic climate. These organizations are fighting for their very existence.  Please join us today and support the theaters in our network.

Remember without these organizations we will nor have places for emerging directors, playwrights, actors, costumers and other theater professionals to hone their skills, We are losing the organizations that are at the forefront of cultivating our creative voices in the American theater.  It is imperative that we spark renewed interest in the arts, the artists and the organizations that nurture them.

PROJECT1VOICE is proud to take on this challenge of trumpeting our artistic resources so that they can sustain themselves now and into the future.

Go to www.project1voice.org for more information.

http://www.virginiasamfordtheatre.org for tickets in Birmingham.

Official Ramsay High School Kick Off Party @ The Wine Loft

The Evolution of the Harvest Dance: The official Ramsay High School Reunion Kick-Off Party with B BBrian in the Mix.

Friday, June 3, 2011 – 9:30pm – 2:00 am @ The Wine Loft.

Representing all classes. 2200 1st Avenue North – Birmingham, AL 35203.

For more information log on to bbrian.com

Herbie Hancock @ The Alys Stephens Center

June 1, 2011   – Herbie Hancock is a true icon of modern music. Throughout his artistic explorations, he has transcended limitations and genres while maintaining his unmistakable voice. In addition to being recognized as a legendary pianist and composer, his illustrious career includes an Academy Award for his Round Midnight film score and 14 Grammy Awards, including 2008′s Album of the Year. There are few artists in the music industry who have had more influence on acoustic and electronic jazz, R&B and modern rock. Many of his compositions, including “Canteloupe Island,” “Maiden Voyage,” “Watermelon Man,” “Chameleon,” and “Rockit” are contemporary standards that have had a profound effect on all styles of modern music. Now in his fifth decade as a performing artist, Herbie Hancock remains where he has always been: in the forefront of world culture, technology and music. Though one can’t track exactly where he will go next, he is sure to leave his inimitable imprint wherever he lands.

Featuring:
Vinnie Colaiuta – drums
Former drummer on recordings and live tours for Frank Zappa, since Zappa Vinnie has played with everyone from Joni Mitchell and Barbra Streisand to Leonard Cohen and Jeff Beck.

James Genus – bass
James plays both electric bass guitar and upright bass and is currently a member of the Saturday Night Live Band. He’s played with everyone from Jon Faddis and T.S. Monk to Chick Corea and Branford Marsalis.

Kristina Train – vocals
Kristina recently performed with Herbie Hancock, India.Arie and Greg Phillinganes at the Nobel Peace Prize Concert. She’s opened on tours for Chris Isaak and Susan Tedeschi and has collaborated with Marc Cohen, Robert Randolph and the Family Band, among other artists.

For tickets and information visit http://alysstephens.uab.edu/events/?id=174

Guys are like USB

Men are like USB

As I was trying to connect my new portable hard drive to my laptop, I soon was blessed with an awesome concept! Men are like USB… How in the world did I get that one you may ask? Well first, you have to get the right connect for it to even work.

Yup let’s start there. For us men, we unfortunately have to be motivated. You can’t offer us ice cream if we like cake and say it’s the same thing. Sorry, but you can’t trick the good old computer. Yes ladies, USB and VGA are not the same. Taking the time to figure out what cable goes where is very important. That principle is exactly the same as knowing your man. OMG, I know it’s a shocker, but you actually have to do some research. I can’t tell you all the number of inquiries I get asking why your man won’t do anything you ask him. For starters, I always ask if they know how to get his attention?

Very important indeed is it to let him know you want his attention. Huh? Yes you have to let men know that their complete undivided attention is requested. This is the next step in our USB example. It’s not enough to simply wave the cable in the air and magically think it will do something. You have to actually plug it in to the device that you want action from. As with men, we fix things. Unless you give us something definite to do, we take it like you are just rambling on about your day. Most of the time men think women just want someone to talk to. Unfortunately for you all, It usually doesn’t require any action at all. Most men have become use to this and devised a way to pacify your needs and still do what they want with a series of “ugh huh” and “yes dears”. Because of this, you have to “Plug in”.

By plugging in, you’re telling the computer, hey here’s something new that you need to pay attention to. After the computer acknowledges there’s something new, it starts waiting. It’s at this point you need to be concise and definite about what you want. Because you’re dealing with a computer, it doesn’t need to hear about how the new device makes you feel, it just wants to know what you want done with it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that men don’t care, they just don’t care. Let me explain. It’s not that we don’t care about you; it’s just that this situation is not going to cause any life changing events to occur and so we reserve that energy for things that we feel are more important at the time.

If you don’t do anything while you have the man’s attention, it starts working on previous actions / requests or continues in the idle position (whichever is more convenient). Hold up! I know what you’re thinking. Even though you miss the window, you can just start barking commands again. Sorry miss, but it doesn’t work that way. While waiting or deciding what you actually wanted the computer do, it timed out. To put it simply, it’s not paying attention to you anymore.

Ok, don’t panic, all is not lost. If your computer is a relatively new one and hasn’t been filled up with useless tasks, you may be able to simply pull the cable and put it back in. Hopefully you’ll get the computers attention again. If not, it means your man has probably totally blocked out the request due to your impatience and or multiple cord pulls. Ladies, you can’t just go yanking cables. Sometimes it takes a little time before things happen. You have to understand we sometimes are running multiple tasks at once and it takes a moment before yours comes up. Also, at times it may look like nothing is happening, but the computer is actually performing duties in the background. This is especially true when the man goes into sleep mode, so be careful while waking.

If no action has occurred within a reasonable amount of time, at the bottom of the troubleshooting list is the restart. This is not always the best solution, but at times, things get so jumbled up with random tasks, cord pulls, conflicts and corrupted software that you simply have to cut it off and start all over.

Now, please don’t confuse powering off with erasing everything. “Power off” is the equivalent of “We need to talk”. After waiting for the computer to boot all the way back up, try to get your man’s attention again. Usually restart fixes most things. It allows everything to completely stop and start fresh. Just like I said earlier, once you get its attention, don’t wait. Put in your request immediately or something else may get priority and then you’ll have to power down all over again. As we all know, nobody likes to power down!

In the end, don’t be afraid to be blunt and direct, after all it’s a computer. Concise tasks, commands and specific jobs are what we’re designed for.

Have fun with your USB!

www.kevinkeyspeaks.com

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